PART 6: SELF-CONCEPT
In this part of the system, we are going to work on your self-concept.
This is because most people who have a history of struggles in managing their weight transformation, it is usually self-sabotage that tend to find that this is due to a lack of self-belief and a self-control, and a tendency of repeatedly self-sabotaging their efforts.
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behaviours are directly linked to self-concept, self-image, and self-esteem and are often driven by a complex interplay of psychological factors, including fear of success or failure, low self-esteem, childhood trauma, and the need to maintain control.
To overcome habitual self-sabotage, it is essential to work on the concept of self, as it is crucial for success not just in losing weight, but in succeeding in achieving any goal, because it fuels motivation, builds confidence, and helps you to navigate challenges effectively.
It also helps to improve your adherence to healthy habits and your overall well-being.
Not only that, but a positive self-concept is associated with mental resilience, better dietary choices, reduced likelihood of disordered eating, and increased confidence in pursuing your goals.
There are four concepts of the self:
1- Public self: your view of yourself as defined by other people’s public knowledge of you.
2- Self-concept: who you believe you are.
3- Actual or behavioural self: the self created by your actions and habits.
4- Ideal self: the self you aspire to be.
he areas we will primarily focus on are self-concept and your ideal self. This is because enhancing those two specific areas will vastly improve the other two as a byproduct of that process.
To demonstrate the fact that these eating behaviours are associated with discomfort and not comfort I’d like you to take 10 minutes to complete this task-
Find a place where you can be alone and quiet and listen to this audio-
to just take a moment to close your eyes and in your mind’s eye scan your entire body in its current physical form. Consider how your body feels when you have to move more than normal. If you’re able to, consider how your body and joints feel when you have to climb stairs, walk long distances, climb in and out of a bath or car.
If you’re disabled consider how your body feels when you have to move in ways to support and care for yourself.
Now consider looking into a full length mirror for a period of time observing your naked body, or entering a big room where everyone present turns to look at you.
Do any of those above scenarios make you feel comfortable in any way? I’m willing to guess from experience that they don’t. And the root cause of that uncomfortableness is your weight, and your weight is an issue because of your eating habits.
But not only that, when you have unhealthy eating habits/behaviours at play you’ll be experiencing feelings of guilt, regret and at times disgust too at the eating episodes you experience, which only adds to and intensifies the original issues that triggered the eating episode in the first place, perpetuating the cycle of “feel bad → eat → feel emotional and physical discomfort”, but calling it ‘comfort eating’ to mask and disassociate from those feelings is only prolonging them, because it doesn’t matter how much you try to lessen it’s true nature by dressing it up in a justifiable and more reassuring package such as “comfort eating”, the reality is that it is actually a form of non-suicidal self-harm, and accepting that fact moving forward will make you far more consciously aware of your inclinations to engage in acts of disordered and unhealthy eating, as it’s a stark and hard act to inflict on yourself, so you’ll be far more mindful of your triggers and choices with that acceptance in place.
Or if you’re unable to listen to an audio, follow these instructions-
Take a moment to close your eyes and in your mind’s eye scan your entire body in its current physical form. Consider how your body feels when you have to move more than normal. If you’re able to, consider how your body and joints feel when you have to climb stairs, walk long distances, climb in and out of a bath or car.
If you’re disabled consider how your body feels when you have to move in ways to support and care for yourself.
Now consider looking into a full length mirror for a period of time observing your naked body, or entering a big room where everyone present turns to look at you.
Do any of those above scenarios make you feel comfortable in any way? I’m willing to guess from experience that they don’t. And the root cause of that uncomfortableness is your weight, and your weight is an issue because of your eating habits.
Now open your eyes-
I want you to now also recognise that when you have unhealthy eating habits/behaviours at play you’ll be experiencing feelings of guilt, regret and at times disgust too at the eating episodes you experience, which only adds to and intensifies the original issues that triggered the eating episode in the first place, perpetuating the cycle of “feel bad → eat → feel emotional and physical discomfort”, but calling it ‘comfort eating’ to mask and disassociate from those feelings is only prolonging them, because it doesn’t matter how much you try to lessen it’s true nature by dressing it up in a justifiable and more reassuring package such as “comfort eating”, the reality is that it is actually a form of non-suicidal self-harm, and accepting that fact moving forward will make you far more consciously aware of your inclinations to engage in acts of disordered and unhealthy eating, as it’s a stark and hard act to inflict on yourself, so you’ll be far more mindful of your triggers and choices with that acceptance in place.
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